Kindle Life – Worry Management – Episode:4

Nature has classified food as conducive and non-conducive for every living organism. For example, if human beings consume a certain variety of cactus plant, they will die; whereas the same plant is consumed by camels for their survival. This fits into the famous adage “One’s poison is another’s food”.  Anything in nature which is accepted by your constitution (body) is referred to as “conducive” and which is not, is termed as “non-conducive”. This concept of conduciveness and non-conduciveness will help me present to you the contents I wish to, here.

The term “conducive” and “non-conducive” is not only applicable to food, but to emotions as well, which we will discuss in this article and other forthcoming topics. The next question is who decided this and why? It is a difficult question to answer as these are the “Laws of nature” which cannot be questioned; Can we question why all living organisms die? We cannot, because “we don’t know the overall plan of the nature”. I am not using the term “God” and in its place using “Nature” as some atheists may not believe in God but will accept Nature which is the cosmic intelligence that runs this universe.

Anatomy of Emotions:

Let me try to clarify what are emotions before I deal with “Worry management” as it is very important to understand the anatomy of emotions. Ever since we are born till we die, a stream of thoughts run in our mind all the time both during waking and sleeping hours. Among various other things in life, we also do not have any control over the thought current in our mind. As Swami Chimayananda once said we can keep our limbs at rest for a while but not our mind, although both are part of our being! The “Dharma” of mind is to keep itself busy with thought current like “Dharma” of river is to keep the water current.

The emotions are the automatic response of the mind whenever an external stimulus reaches its bosom. If you frown at me, it forms a stimuli captured by my eyes and reaches my mind as an input and the response of the mind is “anger” which is one of the emotions. To sight an analogy, if you type a letter “A” in the keyboard of a computer, it forms an input which is converted as a digital signal, read by the computer and responded by the operating system. Here the input of keyboard is stimuli and the operating system is the mind which processes the stimuli. What is the big deal about learning this? 

  

As we have defined “conducive and non-conducive foods”, we also have “conducive and non-conducive emotions”. For example “Love” and “compassion” are conducive (positive) emotions where as “Worry”, “Anger” etc are non-conducive (negative) emotions. The conducive emotions generate a healthy response from our body’s metabolism whereas the negative emotions lead to decaying effects of our body. Anger for example increases our heart beats and blood pressure and worry leads to stomach ulcer and tooth decay. Over and above destruction of our physical body, the negative emotions also destroy our relationships and hence need to be managed. I wish to discuss one of the negative emotions namely “Worry” in this article and continue with others in the forthcoming articles.

What is Worry?

What is worry? Let me attempt defining “worry” before proceeding with the investigation of its effects on the quality of our life. “Worry is an anxious thought we entertain anticipating a trouble in the future or regretting about an incident of the past”. If we agree with this definition, worry is connected with the unborn future or buried past!

Anatomy of Worry:

It appears that this concept of worry does not exist in the animal kingdom and it is an exclusive right of human beings! I would say it is a unique feature of human evolution as it requires higher intelligence to worry – namely the rationale! Like the feeling of upset, one cannot be productive when they are busy with the worrying thought. In order to appreciate why we are caught up with the habit of worry, we need to understand the anatomy of human personality.

The moment we are born, it is certain that  we will die one day! Whether anything else is certain or not, death is certain. Due to the higher intelligence and fear of death, people live with a feeling of insecurity. Due to fear of unborn future, we go around aggrandizing wealth thinking that money will save us future calamities.  All these have created a phobia of an un-born future making us to worry about our health, future of our children and so on. 

Effect of Worry:

One of the modern day killers is the worry which has many destructive effects on human beings such as tooth decay, hypertension, stomach ulcer etc. How can a thought impact physical health? The physical body reacts according to the mental state. If you are anxious, you breathe faster and if you are cool or meditate, you breathe softly! The body and mind are so interconnected that one influences the other. William James, the greatest psycho-analyst of this century has demonstrated several experiments to show how body and mind respond to each other. Many of us succumb to this silent killer “Worry” without knowing what is happening within us.

Tips to master worry habit:

Live in a “Day tight Compartment”

Scientists have studied about the composition of our thoughts and found that we process an average of sixty thousand thoughts in our waking hours and out of which 80 percent are about our un-born future! Invariably they are anxious thoughts about future. In other words we spend 80% of our time in imagining worst things which might/might not happen in the future. This anxiety may be of bad health, safety of our children gone to school and so on. Invariably we find that 99% of the worst we visualized have never happened in reality! Even then we continue to entertain the worry thoughts helplessly.

We need to learn many things from the animal kingdom to improve our quality of life. In the animal kingdom there is no concept of past and future and the only reality is “present”. The animals are believed to be governed by their instincts; hunger, procreation, self-preservation and rest. As they don’t have the concept of self-awareness as we have, they do not know that they exist! As they do not recognize that they exist, they do not have an idea of death either. In other words, they have no fear of death as we human beings have. This fact leads to the conclusion that they have no desire to aggrandize wealth for securing their future like we do! If there is no concept of future, obviously there is no question of worrying about the same!

If the scientists could find an instrument which can study the pattern of thinking of an animal, we will find that they have no worry thoughts. Even when we examine their behaviour we find that they have no anxiety about their next meal as they are never denied of it as the nature has planned to provide them when they need it! It may not be an exaggeration if I say that they are more confident about the love and compassion of the creator than human beings . The tips is “Learn to live one day at a time”

Trust and surrender to the Nature (God):

In one of the discourses, Sukabodananda refers to the kindness of the creator by referring to the formation of the milk in the mother’s breast when the child is just delivered. We notice that the food nature creates is just-in-time and ideal for the infant to consume and survive. There cannot be a better example than this to re-assure us that nature provides what we need than what we want! A true surrender to the almighty (Nature or God) is the best way to come out of the worry habit. I am of the view “we should not worry about that which cannot be understood and controlled – example “death”. Tips: Surrender to the Lord, he knows the best for you! Whenever you start a worry thought, tell your mind that you have taken the role of the Lord!

Develop a “Habit”

To start with, we need to understand that worrying is a habit like smoking or drinking. In order to manage anything in life, we need to know more about the subject we are trying to manage. If you wish to come out of the habit of worrying, you need to know more about “Worry”. As Stephen Covey said, formation of habits needs three ingredients; Desire, knowledge and skill. Most important ingredient is “Desire” to form a new habit and once it is taken care, the next is “Knowledge” about worry. One of the great thinkers has said that “Worry is interest paid on trouble before it is due”. What a great statement it is? Worry is like paying interest on the money which we have never borrowed! This implies that majority of the worst outcomes that we imagined have never happened in reality, but we have already paid the interest by draining our precious time and energy worrying about it! Another great quote I remember is “Worry is like a rocking chair; it keeps you busy but takes you nowhere!”

Beware of “Thought Attack”

Having mastered the Desire and knowledge, the next in habit formation is “skill”. To develop a habit of eliminating the worry thoughts is to know when they attack you. As we have heart attack, we have to be aware of “Thought attack”. Whenever we get busy to encourage the worry thoughts about the future, we have to stop entertaining our mind by substituting with a positive assertion saying that the present moments are more valuable for you rather than anxiety of the un-born future!

Allocate a “Worry Hour”

Dr. Richard Carlson in his famous book “Don’t sweat the small stuff; it is all the small stuff” suggests an allotment of “worrying hour in a week”. Tell your mind when the worrying thought hits you that you will take it up in the worrying hour and not now! If you really look at, all these suggestions are nothing but re-education of the mind imitating the animals. If you like, you can surrender all your anxiety to the divine which has brought you here providing the ambience for you to survive in your mother’s womb and created the food you needed when you were just born!

Wish you a worry less life ahead.

In Summary:

·  Worry is one of those negative states of a being which ruins your present moment making you ineffective.

·  All negative thoughts including worry affect your heath leading to disease. Disease is “Dis” “Ease” with the nature – non-alignment with the plan of the nature.

·  Learn to live in the present moment like an animal. Don’t underestimate animals as they have better quality of life as they obey law of nature better than us.

·  Worry is a habit like smoking and drinking which can be changed at your will if you desire.

·  Don’t wait for the doctor to say that you are terminally ill to change your habits! The will-power what you get that time is already there within you even now.

·  New habits can be made if you have desire, knowledge and develop skills.

·  By re-education of mind, you can eliminate the worrying habits over a period of time.

·  Don’t throw away your invaluable present moment by worrying about an un-born future.

·  Remember 99% of the worst future you imagined have never happened! Why continue this wrong habit of worrying?

I Surrender to my Lord for flowing through me to write this article.

NC

Kindle Life: Anger Management – Episode-3

I am qualified to write on this topic as I was the epitome of anger and paid the price than anyone else! Why I chose this topic part of this “Kindle Life” series is, Anger is a disease as common as cold and has several implication in our life both in personal as well as professional. No one can say they don’t know what anger is, because it is one of those evils that the mankind is trying to grapple with for ages.

Definition of Anger

Before analysing the means of anger management, let us understand what we mean by anger. The Oxford dictionary meaning of anger is “Strong feeling of displeasure”. The other connotations of anger are annoyance, irritation, fury, rage, antagonism, resentment etc. In essence anger is one of those negative emotions of human beings which have far reaching consequences than any other.

The Anatomy of Anger

It is often said “If you wish to manage something, you need to understand it”. This may be the reason the first lesson in Medicine is to understand human anatomy. Hence the anatomy of anger is necessary when I am going to discuss the tips for anger management.

There are minimum 3 elements required for anger to manifest; the object (that stimulates anger), the subject (who manifest anger) and the third the manifestation of anger ie the manner in which the anger manifest – may be a frowning, yelling, hurting etc.

I have good news from Psychology that all human beings get angry! Don’t you feel little better now? There are two kinds of anger – imposed and exposed. Exposed anger is when we let off our steam upon the object of anger and imposed anger is suppression of anger within ourselves. This gives us good news that those who are called “Cool headed” are those who are dormant volcanoes. These people do more harm to themselves than those expose anger. Hence, anger management is not only important for those who are “short fuses” but also those “Cool headed” (those who suppresses anger and get into more problems later)

There is famous adage in Tamil “Where there is anger there you find character”. Is it an empty justification for people who display exposed anger? I don’t think so. When a person expresses his discontent he clears his mind then and there. But the person who harbours his discontent without expressing is waiting to settle his score through some other way or may be harming himself by suppressed anger.

I am not advocating for exposed anger which is anyway harmful. 

Why Anger Management?

For some unknown reasons all living beings like love & warmth and resent rage form other beings. Some of these in nature can never be questioned as “Why” as they are called Law of nature like gravity – you cannot ask the question, why gravity pulls masses together and not pushes; why water flows from high level to low level and not vice versa? The Law is that which cannot be questioned as “why?” That is the way they are for some unknown reasons! When we are kind with someone they feel closer to us and they hate when we yell at them. Hence, anger creates enemies in our life who will be waiting to hit us back. This is a good enough reason to consider anger management. More than anything else anger is in the top of the list in mastering “Emotional Intelligence”. When we are free of anger it improves our personality and image.

Genesis of Anger:

In my family of eleven I was branded as “short fuse” and everyone was keeping a distance because they did not know when this volcano will erupt! There is hardly anyone I spared in my life who has not come across my rage and my wife Meera was the closest to the crater and negotiated the maximum lava flow! There is no need for any big reason for me to get triggered, as my default mode is anger. I was tolerated during my professional career as I was a star performer and my seniors were kind enough to put up with my idiosyncrasy.

At some point in time, I introspected the origin of my temperament and found few genesis of this hysterical state. One of those is role modelling my dad who was a tyrant during his time and the other is a perennial sense of incompleteness arising out of childhood disappointments. You may ask how about the other off springs of my dad. Ironically it does not happen that all children role model their parents and I inherited my dad’s legacy.

Knowing this genesis of my Arjuna state of consciousness helped me to work on my anger management techniques. I recommend those who wish to mend their anger department to figure out the genesis of their state which helps to weed out the root causes.

       

Anger Control Vs Anger Management?

I happened to see the movie “Anger Management” recently which gave me deeper insight into this topic than before. First of all why it’s “Anger Management” than “Anger Control” as we have been taught by our elders? We have been advised to count 10 when we are angry and count hundred if we are very angry! In my opinion, anger control is “suppression” and anger management is “eliminating root causes of anger”.

How do we manage anger?

The following tips will empower you to manage anger and help you to master the art of “Anger Management” which enhances your emotional quotient:

Assertive Expression:

Whenever you come across an incident which triggers your anger, try and create awareness that you are unhappy about when someone pressed your “Anger button”. Before bursting into action try expressing your feelings in an assertive manner. The effect of assertive expression produces better response than uncontrolled anger. The following anecdote shall clarify:

 “Recently I was travelling in a Norwegian cruise lines in Hawaii island along with my son’s family for a vacation. While we were in the restaurant, one of the waitresses showed a rude behaviour which made all of us angry. After eating the food with lots of resentment, I saw my son declaring that he is going to express his resentment to the restaurant captain. I liked his assertive expression without any sign of anger and it made a deep impact on the captain. In the evening when we returned to my son’s cabin, we found an apology letter along with a bottle of chilled wine and fruit bowl. On the other hand if we would have yelled at the waitress or the captain it would not have produced any effect. It was a happy ending and restoration of our good will to the Norwegian Cruise Lines.

I suggest you to try this assertive expression method whenever you are unhappy about any incidence of other human beings.

Reprimand the action & not the person

Often whenever a person does something which we don’t like, we yell at that person passing judgement. It is important to isolate the person and the act. Assertively expressing the views on the act without passing judgement will make that person to realize and improve their behaviour next time. On the other hand invalidating them will create an enemy which is not worth it.

It is perfectly Ok to get angry with:

Anger is nature’s safety valve for releasing excessive pressure and not to feel bad about it. It is a fact that all incidents and behaviour of other human beings are bound to differ from your way of thinking and doing. If you don’t agree that it is perfectly normal you will have umpteen reasons to get angry. After all we need to admit that it is not our way is always right.

Anger destroys your Image:

As smile decorates your face anger destroys your image. It is important to recognize that people want to be around someone who provides solace to them. Animals want to rest under the trees as it gives them shade to escape from the hot sun. Similarly, we wish to be in the company of the person who provides warmth and love. It is important to deeply programme our sub-conscious mind that it is not a good idea to express an un-controlled anger. Data reveals that no one with uncontrolled anger risen to the pinnacle of the corporate ladder.

Practice makes you perfect:

Watch out for a trigger that makes you angry. You don’t get angry with your pet as much as with your loved ones! Have you ever analysed the reason for this? The real reason is, you have accepted the pet as they are and don’t have any expectations from them except love. When you have unconditionally accepted someone it becomes fun watching them doing what you don’t like as an example, the mother watching the toddler doing many mischiefs. Finally anger management is the re-education of mind and practice like you develop your biceps in the gym.

Jai Gurudev

Love

NC     

Kindle Life – Episode:2 – Theory of Personality Development

After reading my first episode of Kindle Life, one of the readers of my blog asked me when I am going to give the tips and tricks for personality development. I am of the view that there cannot be a "Cook Book" approach for personality development. It is a transformation of a being and not a technique to impress others as Steven Coovy puts it in his book "7 Habits of highly effective people". He calls it  "Character ethics & personality ethics. I believe in "Character ethics" which is long lasting and real. In early 50's many books have been written on personality ethics advocating to "smile and call people by names etc" which lead to plastic smile and manipulation of other human beings. They all helped in "Looking Good" and hardly did anything to "Being Good".

I request my readers to be patient as I am suggesting a principle centered approach for personality development which will change the core of our being not intended to teach you any table manners kind of approach which is a cosmetic change and short lived. If others know that we are manipulating them, we have lost them once and for all. This is the folly many service industries are making today by suggesting their employees to smile and call their customers by name etc. This is not customer focus; it is manipulation and not genuine.

Theory of Science:

Before we proceed with the formula for developing our personality, I wish to present few aspects which we need to agree as building blocks. In any endeavour there is a theory or philosophy behind whether it is science or religion. We call it a theory in science and philosophy in religion. In this episode I wish to present the “Theory of personality development”. Let me explain what I am referring to.

Newton proposed the theory of motion with his 3 laws of motion for which he had no proof when he announced it. For example the first law was “Every physical body will continue to be in a state of rest or motion unless it is acted upon by an external force”. Newton could not prove this theory as there was no satellite to show that in a state of zero gravity the object will perennially keep moving without any prime mover! It was a theory when Newton proposed and was proved later.

Similarly, Galileo said the earth is a globe and is moving round the sun as people at that time believed that the sun is moving around the earth which is flat! People were afraid that if they keep walking, they will reach the edge of the earth and may fall down in the abyss. Galileo was poked in his eyes as he was thinking ahead and telling the truth when vast majority of people were ignorant. The two scientific examples explain the theory upon which people build satellites when they believed it and the whole mankind is reaping its material benefits.

Philosophy of Religion:

From the philosophy, Adi Sankara postulated the theory of “Advaida” – non duality; which states that “You and God are one and the same and as you are ignorant you cannot realize it”. Those who believed this theory were enlightened and attained godhood and those did not believe remains ignorant and suffering in life.

The point I am making is everything starts with a Theory or philosophy as satellite communication from Newton’s law and enlightenment from advaida. If we don’t believe the theory or philosophy it does not work for us and when we believe it works – very paradoxical but that is the way it is.

THEORY OF KINDLE LIFE:

Having explained what is theory and philosophy; let me present the “Philosophy of Personality Development”. In this series Kindle Life we have commenced our journey to explore our capability to exploit the human potential to attain material and spiritual gains in life. I am of the view that there is no conflict between material and spiritual attainments as both require the same progress in our stature which is nothing other than “Behaviour”. After all the difference between two human beings is none other than the behaviour in a given circumstances. Before we proceed further with a cook book approach to personality development, we need to agree on fundamental belief that:

1.  We wish to change for the better.
2.  We can change if we choose to.
3.  We are the creator of our own destiny

If any one of us coming from a paradigm that all circumstances in which I am today is the result of all external factors other than me, Kindle Life is not their cup of tea!! When we come with a paradigm that others should change for our life to become better, it is a good recipe for “not doing anything in life”. For changing one’s life course, it is very important to believe that all the mess in our life was created by us! It is hard, but that is what the foundation of change management at individual life is all about. Many of us feel that our parents “should have” done better things for us – sending us to a better school etc. The only role expected from our parents is “ensuring that we are alive till we were on our feet!” All creations can look after it just the moment it has born except human being – the fish can swim; a calf can run and so on. We would have died if the parents would not have looked after us when we were a baby! Let us not expect anything else from them and be thankful to them.

Before we proceed further, we need to agree on few fundamentals which I will be using throughout Kindle Life. I call them “Basic Assumptions”. Here they are:

1.    My stature is the active ingredient for the progress I will make in my career & personal life.

2.    We are the creator of our own destiny

3.    We can change if we really wish to.

4.    Training my mind is like developing my biceps in a gym. If I can train my biceps, I can train my mind as well.

In Summary:

• My personality decides whether I am needed for greater responsibility & hence positions in my career.
• I wish to change for the better
• I can change – as I can develop my biceps, I can develop my personality
• I am the creator of my own destiny; I don’t blame my parents for anything as they did what they were supposed to – keeping me alive when I needed them the most.
• Only human beings can alter their destiny as it is the plan of the creator to gift you with that ability.
• I am responsible for all the mess I have created and no one else.
• Let me take charge and choose to travel on a path less travelled.

Kindle Life will continue.

Jai GuruDev

NC

Kindle Life - Episode:1- Can we change?

There are two schools of thoughts about our ability to change our behaviour over our life span; one is “we cannot change as we are made that way!” and another “We can change at our will!” As pair of opposite prevails in all aspects of life such as “hot & cold”, “light & shadow”, “Pain & pleasure” and so on, we have two opposite view about our ability to change ourselves for the better. After reading and listening to great masters, I have programmed myself to be optimistic about everything in life instead of pessimistic views as it paid many dividends for me throughout my life.

There are two handles to life; one is “it is a benediction to be human” and another is “It is a load of misery”. I was recently reading the biography of Lord Buddha who was completely kept in dark about the miseries of life by his father believing that Gautama will become the emperor of Kapilavastu. Gautama became Buddha only after getting exposure to the realities of life which is the biggest change ever reported in mankind.

I am going to advocate the idea that you can transform yourself if you choose to irrespective of what is your position in life. In this article and the few subsequent ones, I am going to share the approach and inputs that made me a better soul.

Why we are what we are?  

I was curious to know how and why human beings are so different from each other as compared to the other species and constantly read many scriptures and research on modern psychology. I wish to present few facts as I understood from my research:

1.    All human beings have born with equal opportunities to explore their life and we are different in our IQ which is the metric that measures human ability to learn and understand complex phenomenon. Those with higher IQ learn faster.

2.    Our emotional state is determined by our childhood conditioning which is often referred as EQ – Emotional quotient.

3.    Our principle centring is determined by the values imbedded in our sub-conscious mind during our childhood and often referred as SQ – Spiritual quotient.

4.    Our ability to maintain relationship with others is also a function of our childhood conditioning which is referred to as RQ – Relationship quotient

5.    Conditioning is the process of programming our mind like a computer functions as per the codes written on it.

6.    Many of us don’t even know how we are messing up our life and relationship and live in a paradigm “One who knows not that he knows not is a fool”; we can often take actions on matters which are known to us. There are many remain in “we don’t know that we don’t know” space of our consciousness.

7.    When conditioning is possible, un-conditioning & re-conditioning also must be possible which the reverse of the conditioning is.

8.    We don’t need to be helpless for our current stature & personality as we have not exercised our option, as human being is the pinnacle of creation. If Gautama can become Buddha, ‘Narendra can become Vivekananda; you and I can make this planet a better place not by changing others, but by changing ourselves. In my view the World reflects what we are as it has no independent reality!

Anatomy of Human Personality:

Before I could proceed with my views on how we can change our personality, it is important to understand; what is the anatomy of our personality from the Vedic point of view. Our Veda says that we are made of 4 layers of personality – Body, Mind, Intellect and Atman in their higher archival order. Let me explain what is their functions and interaction between each of them which is important before we venture on our taking charge of our life for the change management.

BODY:

Body is the grossest level of our being; the word “Gross” in Veda refers to that which can be perceived by all 5 senses (touch, feel, smell etc). The body has 5 input and 5 output devices. The major function of our body is to “perceive” with 5 input sense organs (eye, nose, tongue, skin, ear) and act with 5 output device namely “hand, leg, vocal chord, excretion system and genital”. Body is like hardware of a computer system which receives signals from a mouse & key board and gives output through a monitor. Veda calls body as a “Perceiver”

MIND:

The mind is a “subtler” part of our being which receives and processes the external stimuli and is equivalent to the “operating system” of a computer which understands your inputs and carries out certain computing. In Veda anything is said to be “subtler” if it cannot be recognized by our senses but its presence cannot be denied. One aspect of the mind is it “emotions” only and has no rationale (ability to distinguish good and bad). Veda calls mind as a “Feeler”. Its main function is to receive the external stimuli from body and generate emotions such as “anger, jealousy, greed, anxiety, love, compassion, etc. Science is yet to find out where the mind is situated in the human body.

INTELLECT:

Intellect is more subtle than mind and has a different function than mind; mind “feels” where as intellect “thinks” . Human beings only blessed with higher order equipment called intellect with which we have progressed in our civilization which is denied for the animal kingdom. Intellect stores wisdom and often tells us what is right and wrong. There is no equivalent example in a computer which differentiates a robot from a human.

ATMAN:

The computer cannot function if there is no electricity even it is the cutting edge technology. Similarly there is some life force that animates us like electricity in a computer. Atman is the subtlest layer of all aspects of human personality which the scientists are exploring to prove its presence as matter in human body. Its presence cannot be denied as if it leaves the human body everything becomes non-functional. For the time being we will accept its presence and proceed to our next step of exploration.

In this episode I made a beginning to a big saga of changing ones personality for the better and could cover the structure of human personality. In the coming articles, I shall cover tips and tricks for change. I urge my readers to read my blog continuously to get a perspective of changing your personality for the better.

Jai Guridev

NC

Bad Habits of highly ineffective Leaders

Dear Readers


I invite you to listen to my lecture on "Bad Habits of highly ineffective Leaders" recently delivered during a Corporate Training. Wish you happy Listening.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zq64Q3l4CGQ&feature=mfu_in_order&list=UL


Regards
NC

3 Laws of Prosperity - Expression & Enrollment

In my previous episode I commenced a new topic “3 Laws of prosperity” and covered one law “Integrity” and in this episode I would like to give the perspective of how these 3 laws interconnected and work miracle in those life who believe and practice.

What is “Prosperity?

The final outcome all of us expect is the prosperity, the effect of the root causes which make them happen. The law of “cause and effect” says that we have a no control on the effect and need to work on the causes that make them. In our context the prosperity is the effect which is caused by the 3 – Laws which act as the root causes.

The word “prosperity” has several connotations to each one of us depending on our paradigms, age and state of mind. For those in their teens it may mean settling in life with lots of money. I wish to illustrate an anecdote here to clarify this point:

“Few years back I happened to attend Shree Shree Ravishakar’s Art of living session in which the master asked the aspirant what the aim of your life is. Many people answered in many different ways to this question and one of the aspirants in his late twenties said “3 M is the aim of his life” The master asked him to elaborate the “3 Ms”. The gentleman said “Mansion – Money & Mercedes!”  He did not mention which model of Mercedes, how much money and where & how big the mansion is!! I am sure with this pursuit he is going to be perennially unhappy as the moment he bought a C-class Mercedes; he will start thinking of E-class and so on.  If we would have asked this question to Lord Buddha, he would have said “Enlightenment” as he had more than 3 M’s equivalent on those days which he relinquished at the age of 29 in pursuit of finding an answer for the question “Who am I?”.

All human beings without exceptions wish to reach a state of happiness and avoid sorrow. We believe that “Money” can make this possible and give us a false sense of security in spite of seeing even the richest people could not avoid death! The folly of human being is the “un-willingness to learn from facts of life!” We all believe that “Prosperity” means amassing wealth and I wish to accept this definition and proceed further with the 3 laws which have helped people to achieve it although I still believe “Happiness is a state of a being and does not need any material object to make it happen”. In this article, wherever “prosperity” appears, we are referring to becoming rich through fair means.

The Rationale of IEE: (Integrity – Expression – Enrollment)

The pursuit of prosperity in our context is earned wealth, health & happiness in an ethical manner which will not be harmful to any fellow human beings. Swami Chimayananda once explained the word “Shreyas” which is a Sanskrit word for “prosperity”. Prosperity is the nearest translation which runs short of its ability to import the real meaning of “Shreyas” because it means attaining prosperity for self and all fellow human beings. In today’s context all political leaders’ achievements are not “Shreyas” which will amply clarify what Chimayananda really means. May be invention of penicillin by Alexander Fleming or electric bulb by Edison or motor car by Henry Ford may fit in “Shreyas”, I guess as this has brought prosperity in many people life including themselves.

When we are passionate about a vision to reach an end state we are ready to articulate our ideology and vision to the people around us. First and foremost step in this IEE approach is to ensure “How serious we are in reaching the future state, which takes care of the first step “I – Integrity”. When we are not really serious, our expression misses the mark! However may be your articulation skills, still people can figure out your lack of authenticity. I wish to quote from Swamy Sukabodananda:

“If you carry a Jasmine flower in your pocket, others can find out even you have not expressed in words. Similarly your intentions are like the smell of the flower which others can find out even if you are clever in hiding through your expression. The Vasanas are your intentions and all your actions will manifest from your Vasanas. The foundation of all spiritual journeys is purgation of Vasanas. Be pure in your intentions”

I suggest the first step in your cleansing process is to straighten up your “Intentions” so that you will be authentic in your expressions. Having done that let us move on to the next step “Expression” which refers to your ability to articulate your ideas and goals to a larger number people so that you are able to get their buy-in and garner their support.

Expression:

 I have extensively talked about expression in my previous episode and urge the reader to refer it before reading further. However for the sake of continuity I am giving below the synopsis of Expression for my new readers.

The Lexicon has several synonyms for self-expression as “expressiveness”, “articulateness”, “eloquence” and so on. Let us examine what is self-expression and what relevance it has with the leadership and prosperity in life? My interpretation of self-expression is the ability of human beings to express them to make a difference in this planet. Each one of us has different degree of ability to make the World to know that we “exist”. Some of us are very articulate to express our ideas and some of us chose to be silent even when we have valuable ideas to contribute. Such of those who are very articulate are noticed and those who are silent gets ignored and taken for granted.

I am not referring to aggressive behaviour to get your things done; it is the confidence with which we express to make a difference is what matters. In our 3 laws Expression comes as the second law which helps the leader to communicate vocally to all those who need to support him to achieve the vision which becomes a shared vision of every one. If integrity is there, people will see the conviction of the leader and be willing to follow his path. This is the approach all great leaders have followed.

What is Enrollment?

The final result of Integrity & Expression is “Enrolment” which means the voluntary engagement of every one for the cause the leader has chosen. Whether it is Mahatma Gandhi who tried for the freedom of India or Mc Nerney who tried to transform Boeing, all of them needed the buy-in and support of all those masses that have to act for realizing the vision of the leader. If the vision remains as the leader’s prerogative alone the people are not going to act until it becomes the shared vision of every one. As Mc Nerney said “I am one and they are 75,000”. This means that the desired transformation will happen only when the mass is in alignment with the leader.    

The following anecdote shall illustrate this aspect:

Mahatma applied IEE in the process of getting freedom for our country, not with an intention to become the prime minister! His Integrity was un-questionable. He expressed his vision to the masses through several ways which ultimately brought enrolment of everyone in the country at that time.

Mr. TK. Balaji took over the reins of Lucas-TVS in early 80’s as an young CEO from IIM-A during the time the company was almost monopoly in auto-electrical in India. He felt the organization need to change its mind-set wrt its customer orientation, manufacturing systems and all support functions. All the people in Lucas-TVS at that point in time felt that why the CEO wishes to change the system when it was fairly established and they were the best. For a young CEO it is an uphill task to overcome this obstacle. He applied IEE law what I am talking about here. He had the clarity & conviction and believed in his goal and end state. The next thing is “Expression – articulation of your ideas” to all those who were ready to support him. The third law “Enrolment” of people became a reality slowly as the leader had the “Integrity” & “Expression”.

IEE is a power house of Change management irrespective of transforming a nation or an enterprise and its starts with the conviction of the leader and manifests in the transformation.

In summary:

·         Prosperity is the outcome everyone of us are pre-occupied with and its is the “Health, wealth and happiness for everyone - Shreyas”

·         We need the engagement of everyone to achieve our vision – be it a nation or enterprise.

·         Everything starts with a leader who comes up with an agenda for Change – Mahatma Gandhi for Indian freedom, Mc Nerney for Boeing or Jack Welch for GE.

·         The Conviction and Integrity of the Leader decides the enrolment of the people to support him without which the leader cannot achieve the vision.

·         The expression of the leader through communication is the next step in the process so that everyone can visualize his authenticity.

·         Once people see the fair intention, communicated authentically enrols them for the cause – it become a shared vision.

·         Finally it brings “Shreyas” for everyone.

Jai Gurudev

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