How to banish worry? - A thought on Surrender

One of the modern days killer is 'Worry' which consumed more life's than any natural calamities. Blood pressure, tooth decay, diabetic are all due to this killer worry. If we don't manage this monster, it's menace will be unbridled. If we have to manage something, we need to understand it first - what is not understood can never be managed. In this series I wish to share my thoughts on this most important skill we need to master to make our life meaningful & peaceful.

Vedanta proclaims our true nature is 'Sath - Chit - Ananda'

Sath - Truth
Chit - Pure consciousness. 
Ananda - Bliss
Let's understand our true nature which we have lost in bargain to 'Comfort' and ended up in a mess.

TRUTH:
This is a bit complex concept to explain but still let me try. A truth is one which existed before, exists now and will exist for ever - it has no beginning & end; it is eternal. With this definition if you look at the material universe, none of the objects we see will fulfil this definition because all are perishable including stars and galaxies.

I know you are raising your eyebrows as we are also perishable. Of course yes- our body is perishable but not the 'life spark' that animates us which is eternal. This means the television may be perishable but not the electricity that animates it.

CHIT:
Chit is the pure 'consciousness' with which we recognise this World. If we fall in coma also this consciousness is alive which keeps our heart & lungs to function. In all three states - waking, dream state & deep sleep state this consciousness is functions its duty. We are truly the consciousness and not this body.

ANANDA

The approximate translation of this Sanskrit word is BLISS. Bliss is not happiness as to be happy you need a reason but bliss is 'Happiness without a reason'. We are born as a creature to be happy without any material things to make us happy. But we screwed up our true nature in the name of civilisation.

This is just a foundation to explore why we have become a 'Worrying machine' when our true nature is SATH - CHIT - ANANDA. See you in next post for 'Worry Management' tips.

Love you all
With whole of my heart
NC

Parenting - Golden moments

We all passed through the stages of toddler, childhood and adolescent stages of growing. But we don't remember the emotions we went through which is very important to recognise the emotions of our child.

The small child heart beats at the rate of over 100 beats a minute and slows down as it grows beyond 7 years of age. The heart rate is the function of curiosity of external World. As a young baby it explores the world outside all the time and hence the faster heart beat. If the baby sees a rose flower it is 100% focused on it.

Although we were a child we have forgotten that state of mind and expect our children to behave like an adult. We feel embarrassed when our child makes a tantrum in a public place or not following table etiquette.

We tend to put down the child yelling at them as "Behave yourself". When we do the child gets confused what are we up to. Whenever the child laughs we put them down saying 'Why are you laughing?' Laugh is the characteristics of a child which is divine. The child becomes serious over a period of time and looses all its charm.

In parenting it is important to feel like a child putting ourselves in their shoes and let them manifest their feelings the way in which Divine created them. The child is the form of divine with all its innocence and pure consciousness. If the parents miss this period of their child they will have to regret it later.

Wish you a quality time with your divine being.

Whole of my heart
NC

Parenting - Ritual & Superstition

People got angry when Rajneesh said, 'Parent destroy their children'. He does not mean that the parents are conspiring to destroy their loved ones but they do unconsciously. Let's examine how?

Children have born with innumerable possibilities to blossom if we don't force them into a conforming & stereo typed human beings as our parents brought us up. What are those conformance and why they destroy our children's personality is what I wish to cover:

RITUALS:

Rituals are the practices we follow without knowing 'Why we are doing'. This is due to the fact they were taught by our parents 'How to do them without reasoning why to do?' We can't blame the parents because they themselves don't know 'Why' part of the rituals. For example if I am a Brahmin, I have to wear the sacred thread. I went through this ceremony when I was a young boy and till date I don't know why I must wear the thread. This kind of rituals are many in each religion although I cited an example.

When we force our children on these rituals upon which they are curious about knowing why, they become a dumb children loosing their ability to think. In many religion this conditioning on ritual is done before 7 years of age because the child's rationale brain becomes stronger which will reduce the blind faith of the children. If you cannot make the a dumb child before 7 you lost the opportunities once and for ever!

SUPERSTITION:

Like rituals superstitions are blind beliefs like 'cat crossing is a bad omen' which are passed on to children which destroys their self confidence and unnecessarily intimidates them from growing intellectually. Parents unconsciously pass on this stupid beliefs to their children there by put them under undue pressure while negotiating their life.

In SUMMARY:

1. Please in the name of religion don't condition your children with the blind belief you learned from your parents. This shatters their originality and puts them as conforming human being who has limited possibility.

2. Whatever superstition you picked up from your parents , don't pass it on to to your children. If you do then with the reasoning. Remember not to invent a reason for the sake of making your child to your belief. 

3. Teach your children only 'Principles' that govern this universe which will strengthen your children to become a noble human being. Principles are laws and facts that decide the outcome of our actions. I will cover some principles from next few posts for your reference.

Wish you a great Parenting experience with a lovely children.

With whole of my heart
NC

Why human beings chase wealth?

There are few characteristics which are common among all human beings such as our body system's functioning and the way our mind works. All human ambitions are also common such as 'Amassing material wealth' except few exceptions like Buddha who relinquished all carnal pleasures and became a recluse. Can't imagine sometimes how he could do that? From a common man's perspective Lord Buddha is mad.

May be because of what Buddha did we remember him after 2500 years later when we don't even know who was our great great grandfather! It is a million dollar question to answer 'Whether Buddha was mad or my great great grandfather.

As usual you don't need to agree to what I am going to say. My analysis goes like this:

Right from my 'Enquiry' of life started, I was curious to know why human beings without exception chase wealth at the cost of everything else? If this greed is not present akin to animal kingdom, this planet will not have 90% people below poverty line.

The creator for some unknown reasons kept only two motives for all living creations - the 'self preservation' & 'Procreation'. The 'self preservation' drives us to somehow survive and escape from death and procreation drives us be after sex. This is common between animals as well as human beings but for the only difference. The animal do everything unconsciously where as human do consciously. Both science as well as Veda confirms that human is the most evolved species on Earth and there is no further evolution possible!

As we are conscious being we only know that one day we will die and no way we can escape from death. Our self preservation does not permit us to accept death and we wish to live for ever. This desire to somehow escape from death makes us to amass wealth with a hope that we can escape death if we have enough money.

The other reason for tendency to amass wealth is, human beings always wants to grow more than what they are. This desire to become infinite is restricted by our physical limitations. Due to this limitation we try to aggrandise materials, land space etc. This gives a notional feeling of expansion of ourselves. For example Hitler or Alexander wanted to acquire the whole world.

Some Yogis thought you can grow inwardly to merge with the divine that resides in you there by you become all pervading, omnipotent, Omniscient being. This is what Buddha did. Please remember one thing - Human race never worships those who were greedy and had the maximum material possessions; but touches the feet of a yogi who relinquished everything and merged with divine.

Jai Gurudev
NC

Know your Psychic Equity - Muladhara Chakra

Psychic equity is the phrase used to represent your emotional stability progression which decides your material as well as spiritual advancement. I have just completed my book 'Pragmatic Leadership' for Mc Graw Hill (India) in which I elaborated this concept in detail. In this series I wish to give an excerpt of my book.

Great Masters say our life energy rises through 7 centres in our spine called 'chakras' depending on our efforts to raise them through 'sadhanas'. The lowest state of energy is called 'Muladhara' which resides at the bottom most part of spine medically called coccyx. The other name for this chakra is 'sex centre' as it is closer to reproductive organ.

This is where our tail was there when we were monkey before. The tail disappeared as we grew in our stature in consciousness. This symbolically says that the purpose of becoming human from animal is to raise our state of consciousness and not loosing tail alone.

This life energy state is symbolised as a serpent as it sleeps in a coil form till it is awakened. It is not a physical entity but metaphysical which means you cannot find it by scanning electron microscope.

At Muladhara state of our consciousness and being, we will be in body state of consciousness, focusing on indulgence only. This means one will be always oriented in carnal pleasures like eating, drinking, sleeping, having sex etc. Gita calls this state as 'Tamasic' state of consciousness in which the person is generally fit for nothing as he consumes resources but adds no value. Person of this kind will destroy the planet by doing nothing.

The colour that denotes Muladhara chakra is RED which is at the lowest rung of light spectrum in frequency. It is not coincident that 'Red' signifies danger but it is chosen intelligently as you can't see a red colour for very long time as it hurts your eye as well as psyche.

When we were young we were always keen to look ourselves in the mirror and groom our hair all the time. This state is called body consciousness in which body alone is the reality and centre of life to enjoy carnal pleasures. You will notice young people like Red colour car as their predominant energy is in Muladhara chakra. That is the way life starts. You will not find a matured senior guy using a red colour car unless he still resides in the Muladhara state.

As we grow we find it is not enough to feed the body alone with pleasures but our emotions are important. Slowly body focus loses its significance and mind focus takes over. If you experience hair fall at 25 you are devastated but at 40 you would not mind and feel it is a sign of wisdom.

Let me stop here and continue the next chakra in the next post.

Love you all

With whole of my heart
NC

What matters in Life? - Physical & Non-physical?

The greatest physicist & philosopher of this century Albert Einstein once said "All that can be counted does not count; but all that cannot be counted counts".

You may have to read this many times to understand the import of what he means. Greatest wisdom are in couplets like Bhagawad Gita which is not so obvious to comprehend. It needs a commentary. Let me try to write a commentary on this profound statement of a Gyani.

All that we cognise in this universe can be classified into two major categories namely "Physical" & "Non-physical". All that we we can recognise with our 5 senses like the table, chair, Apple or the mountain is 'Physical'. All that we cannot comprehend with 5 senses but cannot deny its presence like gravity, electricity, magnetism etc are 'Non-physical'.

The physical has a boundary like our body, but our mind is non-physical. The physical will perish but the non-physical will never perish as the laws of conservation of energy says 'Energy can neither be created nor destroyed'.

What Einstein says is 'all physical can be counted like number of mangoes or people but non-physical like magnetism cannot be counted as how much magnetism is there in this universe. This is the superficial meaning of what Einstein says but there is a deep sense of wisdom in his statement. What's that? Here is an explanation.

The 'physical' have a material value like our car or properties but non-physical like 'Love, Integrity, patience, compassion etc cannot be counted but it counts. The word count has a dual meaning depending on how it is used in a sentence.

What Einstein says is 'Material objects although can be counted like the number of cars one possess, it does not count (matter). On the other hand how much love and good will one earned cannot be counted but it really counts (matters).

Please remember all powerful forces are invisible like heat, Gravity, magnetism, atomic energy etc. Similarly, all invisible forces like Love, gratitude, compassion etc cannot be counted but are the most powerful forces what 'COUNTS' (Matter).

Above all the Divine is the most invisible force that can never be comprehended with our limited sense but attaining that is what really 'COUNTS' and purpose of life. If you are still counting your physical possessions even now, the non-physical will never be in your vicinity and suffering is imminent.

Jai Gutudev

Love
NC