Dying Regret - 3 - Expressing Feelings

"I wish I had the courage to express my feelings"

'Expressing feelings' is the very characteristics of human life. Some of us are 'Open book' and few of us are 'Mystery' as no one knows what is going on in our bosom. Based on this aspect psychology classifies people as 'Introverted' & 'Extraverted' depending upon their focus towards their own thoughts or Worldly objects. Whatever we are we conclude saying "That is what we are made up of!!"

Any suppressed emotions boomerangs later as a monster in an unbridled manner is a well known fact; be it grief, anger or guilt. This is the reason when someone don't cry during bereavement are asked to cry out.

Very strange to find this aspect of expressing feeling is appearing as the third rank in the Dying Regrets. It is extremely important to address this to avoid regrets later. In the creation human beings are the only species who can talk using language. Although all other species communicate among themselves even without a language, they also communicate feelings through gestures. This is evident when a crow dies hundreds of them cry around it helplessly. The mother animal fondles young ones.

First of all we need to understand what is meant by 'Feelings'. Technically 'Feelings' are human emotions of 'Mind' stemming from many life situations. The regret expressed here is about 'suppression' of this feeling without expression. These emotions could be positive - love, compassion, happiness or negative - fear, hatred, guilt, anger etc. Why do we need to express these emotions?

Emotions are safety valve for human beings which neutralises the pressure that builds in our mind. The very reason family has been created is to drain our emotions with the family members. Some of us are very expressive letting our emotions but some of us are 'Cold' and inhibitive. Unless we develop the habit of "Feeling talk" with our loved ones and express our views in all human interactions we will have to negotiate this 'Dying Regret'. Hence from this moment develop the habit of expressing your feelings with loved ones as frequently as possible. To start with your spouse. Wish you a great sharing life ahead.

With whole of my heart

NC