Principle & Value - The Key for success

Often we get mixed up with Values and Principles. Among many misconceptions this is one among them. I chose to clarify this here before I can add any further posts on Interpersonal Relationships. There is a tamil adage which may be common in other language also says "A pot with less water will always spill over but the full one will not". The analogy of water here refers to wisdom which is a function of experience. Anything known through books or google is only an information till it is experienced personally it does not become wisdom. When you rebel to new ideas that challenges your, there is an opportunity for evolving. "There are many grown OLD, but few only GROWN"

'Value' is what we give importance to - it could be material or intangible. It may be your 'Family' or 'Money' or even your pen! Value drives your behavior and hence your destiny. If your value is for money you will sacrifice everything else for the sake of making money. In other words Value is derived from your 'Attachment' on ephemeral objects.

"Principle" is the 'Law of nature' that governs this universe. You may value principles instead of fleeting objects. For example 'Love', 'Compassion', 'Treating everyone the same way you want to be treated' and so. Benjamin Franklin, the well known Polymath (The human being who mastered several aspects of life) kept 11 principle as his values.

The difference between mundane human beings of indulgence and the great souls like Benjamin Franklin is only the core Values (Principles or self-centered objects). Principe centered leaders like Mother Theresa, Nelson Mandela, Mahatma are the ones whose "Principles' ran their life. That is why we remember them and not our grand fathers !! I shall write about Benjamin's principles later.

Please don't justify broken marriages as good like leaving the job and joining else where. Economic independence cannot be an excuse for adultery. I read some where 30% of married people in metros like Bombay are having extra marital affairs. When you pretend that you are still loving your wife then you are hypocrite. Then you can never be a model to your children. When you break your conscience and insincere you can never be a great leader in any corporate life where "Integrity' is the foundation. Remember when we want chastity from our wife; we cannot have license to freak out. Instead Polygamy is better than adultery.

With whole of my heart

NC