One of the biggest life’s lesson I learnt is ‘How to negotiate disappointments?’
Anecdote:
When I was in school, I was fascinated to become a graduate in mechanical engineering. All went well till my school final, but the karma struck then and I ended up in 52% marks which was not sufficient to get into engineering education. As an angry young man I refused to get into polytechnic which was the only alternative. In the process, I stayed astray for a year, venting my frustration in smoking! A year later I reconciled to the fact that “If you don’t get what you love; then love what you have got!”. I took up my Diploma education and moved on.
Among many disappointments this was the biggest one I could barely accommodate. This early scar in my bosom created an animosity over the society which became my target. I alienated from groups and remained aloof till I reached 28! But the belly fire in me remained glowing for higher education although I was well placed in a reputed company, married with two lovely kids.
It suddenly dawned on me that life does not come to end based on one disappointment. With a positive bent of mind I went back to academia and won my engineering degree with a Gold medal and did my Masters in research in IIT Chennai. What’s the lesson from this story?
What is ‘disappointment’?
The very word dis-appointment’ has two connotations in it; ‘dis’ and ‘appointment’! In English language ‘dis’ stands for ‘negative’ state. ‘Appointment’ stands for meeting ones expectations.
Life is a series of disappointments only because the need of people is many and availability is limited. This means we will only face disappointments one after another. But remember:
- Disappointment wakes you up and makes you alert.
- Disappointment is a ‘comma’ and not a ‘full stop’.
- If one door closes, many other doors opens up. In fact better ones.
- The art of life is ‘How to convert ‘stumbling blocks’ to ‘stepping stones’.
- your job is ‘never give up’. Keep knocking the door and one day it will open.
- Finally remember one great quote:
“Every problem is a seed of equivalent benefit”
This means nature sends you a problem as a seed. Don’t throw it away. Put it in the ground and pour water as it later grow and near sweet fruits. Another words ‘Every problem is an opportunity in disguise.
Jai Problem
NC
Anecdote:
When I was in school, I was fascinated to become a graduate in mechanical engineering. All went well till my school final, but the karma struck then and I ended up in 52% marks which was not sufficient to get into engineering education. As an angry young man I refused to get into polytechnic which was the only alternative. In the process, I stayed astray for a year, venting my frustration in smoking! A year later I reconciled to the fact that “If you don’t get what you love; then love what you have got!”. I took up my Diploma education and moved on.
Among many disappointments this was the biggest one I could barely accommodate. This early scar in my bosom created an animosity over the society which became my target. I alienated from groups and remained aloof till I reached 28! But the belly fire in me remained glowing for higher education although I was well placed in a reputed company, married with two lovely kids.
It suddenly dawned on me that life does not come to end based on one disappointment. With a positive bent of mind I went back to academia and won my engineering degree with a Gold medal and did my Masters in research in IIT Chennai. What’s the lesson from this story?
What is ‘disappointment’?
The very word dis-appointment’ has two connotations in it; ‘dis’ and ‘appointment’! In English language ‘dis’ stands for ‘negative’ state. ‘Appointment’ stands for meeting ones expectations.
Life is a series of disappointments only because the need of people is many and availability is limited. This means we will only face disappointments one after another. But remember:
- Disappointment wakes you up and makes you alert.
- Disappointment is a ‘comma’ and not a ‘full stop’.
- If one door closes, many other doors opens up. In fact better ones.
- The art of life is ‘How to convert ‘stumbling blocks’ to ‘stepping stones’.
- your job is ‘never give up’. Keep knocking the door and one day it will open.
- Finally remember one great quote:
“Every problem is a seed of equivalent benefit”
This means nature sends you a problem as a seed. Don’t throw it away. Put it in the ground and pour water as it later grow and near sweet fruits. Another words ‘Every problem is an opportunity in disguise.
Jai Problem
NC
