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I love exploring new avenues with "passion for impossible" which were not treaded by others so far. Not bound by any race or country or religion for me to associate with and contribute in their life. Regular blogger sharing my folly as "wisdom" for others. Please visit my blog http://www.ncnarayanan.blogspot.com to learn the moment of truth I faced in my life that made me wiser to handle this complex phenomena called "LIFE" 

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I welcome you to my blog

Dear friend,
This blog is an effort to share all the mistakes committed by me in my Life. I wish to share them with a hope that you may learn from my mistake and avoid committing them all over again!

I am blending my wisdom with that of all great Masters who have shown me the Light.

This blog is dedicated to everyone from whom I learned. Wish you peaceful life ahead.

Love
NC

Wednesday, December 30, 2015

A Thought on 'Reality'


In philosophy and science both it is said that "Space & time exists only in our inner experience and not in reality". Whatever we cognize, it is the projection in our brain - the chemical and atomic reaction in our cells. This is the only way we can visualize anything in the World. What we cognize we conclude it is real.

When we are dreaming about a snake chasing, the feelings and bodily reactions are the same as real although nothing is real. But for the dreamer it is real in that moment till he wakes to consciousness.

For a colour blinded people, Green colour does not exist - does that mean Green colour is not there in the spectrum?

In essence 'Reality' is subtle and beyond human comprehension. We are like cockroaches who are not designed to understand all secrets of this creation and the creator. Thinking 'I know it all' is a stupid way of living and looking inward to search for the 'Reality' is the only way for Salvation.

With whole of my heart
NC

Monday, December 28, 2015

Wish to make a Difference in Life?

Then use 'INTELLECT' and not the 'MIND'

Over 5000 years ago a greatest wisdom was propounded by Lord Krishna which is very much valid at all times for those who wish to pursue material or spiritual success. In the 701 verse treatise GITA, in the first chapter Lord Krishna explains the difference between an 'Animal' & 'Human being' - in the later model, the life energy manifests in an expanded form with an additional 'equipment' called "INTELLECT" (I) which has the ability to 'Discriminate' to make choices before we 'act'. This faculty is not bestowed on the animals who can never 'Make choices'. For example a Tiger cannot make a choice to become a vegetarian. One of the greatest power Divine has blessed human beings with is the "Power of making choices" which is the function of the INTELLECT (I).

The MIND (M) is a seat of "Emotions' which is said to be reactive and invariably directs us in a wrong direction and has no ability to discriminate. For example a diabetic sees an ice cream wishes to grab it as that is his first reaction of his MIND (M) which tries to fulfill its gratification. Here, the stimuli is the ice cream and the response to grab is the MIND!! When the INTELLECT is used by the diabetic, it will tell him the the rationale of 'short term pleasure and long term suffering' but there is no guarantee that the person concerned will use the INTELLECT.

I heard Swami Chinmayananda saying "MIND is like the clerk in a Government office and INTELLECT is the officer who has the big picture and will take right decisions; MIND taking decision is like the clerk disposing the file without referring to the officer".

When this happens in our life we always end up in regretting about our choices but it will be invariably late. Those who smoke has a readymade justification and always believe that they will not be affected by it. But when they are diagnosed with 'Lung cancer', they immediately drop the cigarette as their 'Life' is more dear to them than the smoke. Many habitual alcoholic disconnect their INTELLECT which warns them every time he steps into the bar; but he learns to disconnect it for ever!

It is said that 99% of the human beings live their life only with the application of their MIND disconnecting the INTELLECT to discriminate, although they have the choice to use the INTELLECT at all the occasions to make a right choices. It is akin to buying a sophisticated cell phone with innumerable functionality and using it only for making calls.

Please remember,
"Living your life with the mere application of MIND disconnecting your INTELLECT is driving a Mercedes without a steering". If you do, you have no rights to complain anyone for your conditions in your life.

Jai Gurudev
NC

Parenting - Assertiveness

In behavioral science 'Assertiveness' means standing up for rights' which is a very approximate meaning. It's true meaning is 'Expressing our need / opinion without hesitation or fear. The opposite of 'Assertiveness' is 'Inhibitiveness' which means 'Bottling up feelings without expression' or fear of asserting for rights.

In India vast majority of us are 'Inhibitive' unlike in the West where most of them are 'Assertive' who stands up for rights firmly expressing their views. Assertiveness is the key ingredient for success in life because Inhibitive person is ignored and taken for granted.

Why in India most of us are 'Inhibitive'? Again it is the result of parenting. In India we have a false paradigms of expecting younger ones not to make eye contact with elders or not to sit in front of them or cross legs which is reprimanded as disrespect. Constantly we snub the child in the name of controlling them which is referred to as "Put Downs" in psychology. Through 'Put downs" we destroy the confidence for expression and end up as 'Inhibitive' adults who display poor competency in Leadership.

Hence as parents, treat your child as an adult and encourage them to express freely and never ever "Put down" or ridicule them under any circumstances.
Whole of my Heart
NC

Parenting - Confrontation

When I grew up in a family of 11 I saw my dad as a 'Tyrant' like Duryodhan and my mother a pious & saintly Seetha imprisoned for life. Whenever my father is not at home we will flock around our mother like the birds take roles during the sun set. When our father is returning back home my mother will ask us to run away through the back door. We hardly saw the face of our father except few occasions when he bashed our mother.

Having grown In a home which is similar to Mahabharata war field where parents have perennial confrontations, even today I am not able to figure out how we have grown keeping our sanity. The science discovered a great fact that the psychological mental growth of a child depends on 'Love & peace' ambience right from the time the sperm is nucleated its journey in the womb which has become a prenatal counselling now. All rebels and freaks have grown for parents who have unfinished relationship where child saw only 'Confrontations' at home and parents had no time to show love to their children.

Strangely, these days most of the marriages are so called 'Love marriage'. In my view 'Love is unconditional'. If so why Mahabharata war for ever? Only one advice:

"If you have unfinished confrontations with your spouse or planning to divorce, please postpone your plan to have a child". But once the baby is in hand - stop this nonsense of fighting all the time grooming a 'Lousy human'.

With whole of my heart
NC

Parenting - Bullying

When I was in school one of my classmate 'Mari' always used to 'Harass' me and make me cry. He will trip my leg while running, kick me while playing foot ball and so on to get an idea. Going to school was a nightmare for me fearing my 'Bully'. This need not happen in school and in fact vast majority of parents 'Bully' their children in the name of 'Disciplining them'. Constant 'bullying' destroys the confidence of the child as it feels invalidatedevery time and feels 'I am no good'. This constant 'self talk' programs them as Inhibitive human beings. One of the reason an average Indian is 'Meek & passive' is due to this parental mistake.
On the contrary in the US if the parents even raise their voice, the child will call 911 and they will book them on 'Domestic violence' and put behind the bars. One of the reason the children growing as strong & independent' personality in the west is they never faced constant 'put down'.
Hence my dear parents:
1. Don't feel your power by being a dictator at home.
2. Don't be a 'Perfection freak' and expect your child to do everything perfect.
3. If your child is mischievous, don't shout at them. Instead keep the breakable item beyond his reach.
4. Your love towards the child is unquestionable. But it should reflect in your actions that prevents destroying his personality.
5. If your child refuses to go to school check out for a bully like my 'Mari' in school and take action.
Wish you happy parenting.
Whole of my heart 
NC

Fear of Death - A new Outlook

When we have born in this planet, we could not make few choices such as :
1. Whose family we want to be born? The King or beggar?
2. The colour of our skin.
3. Free from any deformities.

We were not certain about what will happen in our life as we pass by since the 'manufacturer' (Creator) has not provided the 'Manual of our life' for our reference. Alas! Even if He has given, life would have been hell as we will know every little details of our future. Nature has blanked out the 'past' life memory & 'unknown future' for our peace. Some of the spiritual aspirants go through 'Regression' to know their past life. I don't dare to do it because 'If I come to know that my neighbor has murdered me in the previous birth, it will become hell in this life !! Many times 'Ignorance is bliss'.

One thing is certain in life we have all born with a 'death warrant' as we are certain that we have to depart from this planet leaving all that we are attached to. While we have classified 'birth' as auspicious we declared 'death' as inauspicious. This is stupid to me as when beginning is good, end cannot be bad. Nature would not have kept anything which is unnecessary. Just because we don't know anything about creator's intention we cannot criticise it.

The snake dies in a graceful manner. The enlightened masters say snake is the most evolved species which knows when it has to depart from life gracefully. That is the reason it occupies the greatest position in Lord Shiva's neck. The snake also knows when it's days have come to end and it climbs the top of the tree and lies down in a branch without food. In this process it gradually dies. This is the way an enlightened masters dies in a lotus posture while all mundane human beings dies in a lying down posture.

We are so attached with all nonsense and want to cling here for ever till nature throws us out of this body. If we don't know 'Art of dying' we cannot learn the 'Art of living'. When we are realistic about the ephemeral aspect of life and the inevitable death, life becomes a celebration and you enjoy a Freedom.
Beware one thing: All that you possess does not belong to you as it can be used by you temporarily and not for ever.

Finally, as Lord Buddha said "Learn to die gracefully like a sun set". When the sun sets, it is beautiful and relaxed with a 'let go' attitude. Please don't wait for the 'Wake up call' for death and cultivate the habit of accepting death as a celebration the Almighty has planned. Learn to live like a 'Lotus' flower that has born in water, lives in water & dies in water but never makes any contact with the water.

Remind yourself that all that you possess is not yours except the divine essence that resides in you as that is the only truth. Daily cultivate a sense of surrender and thank God for all that is happening in your life either challenge or happiness.
Jai Gurudev.
NC

Parenting - 'Grooming an Idiot'

One of the greatest philosopher and scientist of this century Albert Einstein said "I fear the day that technology will surpass human interactions. The World will have generation of Idiots." I feel it has already happened right now !
Let's look at what way 'human interaction & creating idiots' have any correlation. In the era I was born and brought up we had no gadgets to interact with such as TV, PC, cell phone, IPad etc. Today the baby is born with a cell phone!! These are technologies made many companies to make huge money and transformed the way any human being thinks and reacts. Today virtually there is no interaction between human beings as we are always hooked on to these gadgets. Human interaction provides knowledge & wisdom where as gadgets give information.
For example I am sitting in a mall where I came for entertaining my grand children but busy in writing this post while they are enjoying ice cream.
Why Einstein says 'Technology creates a generation of stupid'. 
These media has given plenty of 'Information' and not 'Knowledge or wisdom'. For example if you want to know what is the latest Galaxy NASA has found and how far away it is, all that you have to do is 'Google' for ten minutes. Is this knowledge? No. It is 'Information' which any dumb idiot can get and talk intelligently in a party.

Today every parents wants to provide all these dumb gadgets to their child through which they know 'everything'. The parents feel they are wise as they think their child is learning. Alas! In fact it is like giving a knife to a child.
When everything is known & experienced too early in age, there is nothing to look forward to due to which 'boredom' sets in which is the starting point of 'Insanity'. 90% of children in US less than 8 years are believed to be bored & depressed.
It is predicted that this trend will lead to 50% of people in this planet will commit suicide in less than 100 years. When Japan has grown in wealth, the suicide of children increased phenomenally. When nothing new in life to be known, it leads to deep depression.
This is the reason nature kept many things in secret. For example sex which needs to be experienced only at certain age when the person is matured. If it is too early the novelty and curiosity is lost.
Hope this explains how we create 'Dumb' children through technology. If you really want your child to be wise like Einstein, please don't allow him to use all gadgets too early. Encourage interaction in family in which they learn. You know children grown in joint family with grand parents were centred in Values & principles which is the true wisdom. This can not be obtained in cell phones and video games.
With whole of my heart
NC

Tuesday, November 24, 2015

Parenting - Negative Emotions

Emotions are the 'Feelings' evoked due to external stimuli which can be classified as positive as well as negative. Compassion is a positive emotion of feeling for someone's condition where as 'Anger' is a negative emotion.
Our ability to control & manage Emotions decides our material and spiritual progress which is referred as 'Emotional Intelligence' (EI) in modern psychology. Many research studies have shown EI played a bigger role than IQ for those who climbed corporate ladder very fast.
The negative emotions which has destructive effect on health as well as EI are:

Jealously, Greed, Anxiety, Lust, Fear, worry, anger, hatred, arrogance etc. The positive emotions are:

Sympathy, empathy, compassion, love etc.

When the child is born its mind is blank and cannot generate any of the emotions. It is full of innocence and closer to divine. All the emotions are conditioned and programmed by the parents. For example when we ask the child to be first in class we teach 'jealousy & hatred'. By chasing the child for scoring marks we teach them 'Fear & anxiety'. Most of the other emotions like 'anger' is learned by husband & wife abusing each other.
Parents have no malicious intention but still damage the personality of their child ending up with a bundle of emotions with poor Emotional Intelligence'. Beware of these emotions and groom your child carefully.
With whole of my heart 

NC

Monday, November 16, 2015

Essential Lessons of Life

On an average we spend about 20 years in education collecting many information which has very limited shelf life and practical application for progressing materially and otherwise. The primary purpose of education is "Qualification" as once Rajneesh said "All 'Qualified' people need not be 'Educated'. As we saw people like 'Ramakrishna Paramahansa' were not 'Qualified' but 'Educated'!!
One very critical lesson 'How to live life' was not covered in any education pursuits. Here is a story told by Adi Sankara:
"A learned scholar was sitting in a boat crossing a river which was rowed by an uneducated villager. The scholar wanted to show off his literacy asked the boatman "Have you read Ramayana?" The boatman said 'No' for which the scholar said "you have wasted half of your life". Then the scholar asked "Have you read Bhagwad Gita" for which the boatman replied 'No'. The scholar arrogantly said "Then you have wasted three fourth of your life".
Before the scholar could ask the next question, the boatman asked the scholar "Can I ask you a question?" The scholar proudly said "Yes go ahead". The boatman asked "Swami, have you ever learned swimming?" 
The scholar replied "No, but why are you asking this question?" The boatman said, "You have wasted whole of your life by not learning swimming because this boat was leaking since sometime and going to sink. I will swim & save myself and God bless you with all your knowledge."

This story illustrates the point that "We collect many information through education and misunderstand that they are knowledge - 'Education & knowledge are not one and the same". If information is knowledge then Google is the most knowledgeable entity in the universe".
There are vast majority of lessons we should have been learned from parents & teachers which are essential for Life like the boatman said in the story above. I have compiled few that came to my mind for which you may like to add many. I welcome you to add that comes to your mind. We will discuss each one of them in detail later:
Here is the list of key lessons of life:
1. Has anyone taught us 'How to eat without creating noise from our mouth?
2. Has anyone taught us how to keep our voice low in a public place?
3. Has anyone taught us how to listen when someone talk?
4. Has anyone taught us how to avoid interrupting when someone is talking to us and wait for our turn?
5. Has anyone taught us how to behave responsibly in a public place?
6. Has anyone taught us how to use public properties in a responsible way?
7. Has anyone taught us what punctuality means and how it affects our image & commitment?
8. Has anyone taught us how to walk in the walkway without dashing and or crossing the person coming in front of us?
9. Has anyone taught us how we should stand in Q without grabbing others opportunity?
10. Has anyone taught us how to move in an orderly manner when you board or getting down from a plane or bus without pushing others?
11. Has anyone taught us how to manage our body odour which can cause embarrassment to others around?
12. Has anyone taught us how to react to Toilet noises?
13. Has anyone taught us how to develop conversation with a stranger?
14. Has anyone taught us how to behave during a picnic?
15. Has anyone taught us How to dress for a given occasion?
16. Has anyone taught us how to start & finish a telephone call?
17. Has anyone taught us how to let wind in public both ways - up & down?
18. Has anyone taught us how & why to keep the toilet clean after use in a plane for the use of the other person?
19. Has anyone taught us the importance of not littering the public place?
20. Has anyone taught us about personal hygiene? Say keeping nails short and clean?
21. Has anyone taught us about shaving & grooming ourselves and its importance?
22. Has anyone taught us what are the dress codes- formal, informal, semi formal or casuals means and chose for the occasion?
23. Has anyone taught us when to wear suite and when to wear blazer?
24. Has anyone taught us what is the colour combination of your belt & shoes?
25. Has anyone taught us how to restrain our greed for food and its implication on our personality?
26. Has anyone taught us how to avoid wasting food?
27. Has anyone taught us how to build relationship?
28. Has anyone taught us how much distance to keep while talking to someone?
29. Has anyone taught us what is argument and and how to avoid it?
30. Has anyone taught us how to show respect to our elders and seniors?
31. Has anyone taught us the 'How to stay calm & composed?'
32. Has anyone taught us how to keep up our commitment & while missing it how it affects our image?
33. Has anyone taught us 'How to be compassionate to animals'?
34. Has anyone taught us how not to rush into the elevator and getting out like a local train?
35. Has anyone taught us how to be courteous to other people in the elevator after selecting our floor?
36. Has anyone taught us when to make eye contact and why not to satire ?
37. Has anyone taught us how to greet someone or shake hands?
38. Has anyone taught us how to start a conversation with a 'small talk'?
39. Has anyone taught us how to balance 'talking & listening' during any conversation?
40. Has anyone taught us how to stop boring the other person with too much of 'me & my problems?'
41. Has anyone taught us how to make any conversation mutually interesting?
42. Has anyone taught us how to stop this 'Me first' attitude to grab all opportunity for ourselves?
43. Has anyone taught us how to show some kind gestures when someone need help? Eg. Helping someone struggling to lift their luggage in the plane?
44. Has anyone taught us 'how & when to smile?
45. Has anyone taught us how to be humble?
46. Has anyone taught us how softly speak without shouting?
47. Has anyone taught us 'why not to violate traffic discipline'?
48. Has anyone taught us how & why to share while eating?
49. Has anyone taught us 'how to recognise our own foolish paradigms & unlearn at appropriate time in life?
50. Has anyone taught us 'how to be happy for no reason?'
51. Has anyone taught us how to recognise our negative thoughts and expel them?
52. Has anyone taught us how to handle 'put downs' & 'bullying' by some one without sulking?
53. Has anyone taught us how to watch our 'negative attitude' and make course corrections?
54. Has anyone taught us about the ill effects of anger and how to control it?
55. Has anyone taught us how to handle fear response and overcome it?
56. Has anyone taught us what is stress and how to minimise it?
57. Has anyone taught us how to forgive and forget when someone hurts you?
58. Has anyone taught us the ill effects of harbouring hatred upon others?
59. Has anyone taught us the ill effects of jealousy & greed and how to handle them?
60. Has anyone taught us the effects of anxiety & worry and how to banish them?
61. Has anyone taught us how to handle difference in opinions to sustain relationship?
62. Has anyone taught us what is gratitude and how to express it?
63. Has anyone taught us what is 'Love' and how it has to be expressed & be unconditional?
64. Has anyone taught us what is self esteem and how it affects our personality?
65. Has anyone taught us what's the source of motivation and how to be intrinsically motivated?
66. Has anyone taught us 'what are mental blocks in us and how to overcome them?
67. Has anyone taught us what's meditation & how it can transform our well being?
68. Has anyone taught us about the universal connectivity and the presence of a supernatural entity?
69. Has anyone taught us when to trust & when to suspect?
70. Has anyone taught us where to be serious & when to be playful.
71. Has anyone taught us the the futility of material pursuit for happiness?
72. Has anyone taught us how to be playful at work and have fun when we play?
73. Has anyone taught us what is death and how to embrace it gracefully?
74. Has anyone taught us how to be a good team player?
75. Has anyone taught us what's leadership & how to develop the qualities of a leader?
With whole of my heart
NC

Civilization - An Outlook


I was always keen to understand what civilization means and where it is taking us?
I wish to share my views through a real Life Experience with MASAI tribe in Africa:
I travelled in Tanzania recently in a Safari through the most famous jungle called Serangatti" which is full of wild animals. It is a place preserved for natural inhabitant which are mostly Wildebeest, Lions, Antelopes, Elephants, Giraffe etc. No inhabitation of people is permitted here except a tribe called "Masai" who have struck a perfect balance with the nature with its bounty of wild animals. Seeing Masai, I am reminded of how human beings would have lived during Stone Age.

Please see the pictures below before you read further.
Meera (my wife) & Sashi (my daughter) with Masai

Ganesh (my son) with Masai


Masai Home
Masai School


Masai Children in school

I happened to visit one of the 'Masai' hamlet which comprises of about 180 people living in about 20 huts fenced to demarcate their territory and to protect them from animals. These 180 people have formed a community which is dependent on mutual cooperation for survival. It reminds me of Sri. NanaJi Deshmukh, a nonagenarian visionary from Deendayal Research Institute with whom I had a privilege to work with. He is a social reformist who proposed a concept called "Swavalamban" which, means 'Self-Reliance" of village in India. NanaJi said 'Integral Humanism is the way of cooperative living. I found his philosophy working with Masai tribe.

Masai live in a cramped hut (please see picture) with a special shape entrance may be to prevent entry of animals to grab their child. I tried getting into their hut which was an adventure by itself!. The hut is about 15 SFT which has no window and pitch dark inside. There are two small beds made out of twigs one for parents and one for their children. In the middle of the house they have wood stove where cooking was going on making the hut as hot as an oven. I could not stay there more than 5 minutes due to claustrophobic feeling. I was reflecting how we are living in a comfortable AC apartment and complain about everything. "We are comfortably miserable". I realized it is not the physical comfort that makes us happy which was abundantly provided by science.


They have a school (please see picture) made out of twigs in a muddy floor with 20 kids of 3 to 7 years old being taught English & their tribal language by a 'Masai'. I could not stop tears rolling down in my cheek when I saw those innocent kids with mud all over their body reciting 1 to 10 proudly to impress us. I was reflecting the luxurious education we are providing to our children but still perennially dissatisfied about unborn future. I noticed a charm in the face of Masai children with twinkling innocent eyes which is the reflection of their incorruptible mind. 

While this walk through of innocent people community, I was reflecting in my mind 'Who are most civilized 'We or Masai?' The lessons I learned from Masai is as follows:
  1. Civilization does not mean wearing suit and greedily running behind money. Our attire does make us 'Civilized'. Living with mutual cooperation is nature's plan as we see all animals of same kind live together. It is not the physical togetherness matters but alignment in mind does. Civilization made us to carry the dagger to win.
  2. It is not the possession that makes us happy. Civilization took away our peace from us and provided lots of gadgets. Masai don't have cell phone & Wifi but still happy & effective.
  3. We were entertained with courtesy by the Masai with the belief 'Athiti Devo Bhava'. I found true love for visitors which was not faked. Civilization made us 'fake' in most of our dealings in the name of "Personality ethics".
  4. Masai people were submerged in mud all over their body but still they were healthy. But we carry disinfectant all the time but still pick up virus. It reminds me the fact we have born from Earth, live in earth and buried in earth like a lotus flower born, grown and dies in water. Civilization made us to feel hygienic and became unnatural in everything. We go to spa and get 'mud bath' to recover from stress. Alas where civilization took us.
  5. Masai were seen with their shaven head (both men & women) wearing an identical clothing in RED colour with a stick in their hand. When we asked why RED colour they answered the animals are scared of red. This proves the point 'Knowledge is gained by observation'. I was reminded of Japanese industry practice of uniform for all employees to align their thinking. Civilization did not bring us together but divided us by colour of skin, religion, caste, creed, language, wealth and so on.
  6. There is no hospital in 100 km surroundings but Masai are healthy & living very long. When I asked how do they treat when they are sick. He said they know which herbs cure what disease and above all they rarely fall sick. Civilization gave us BP, Diabetics, heart disease which is not found in Masai!! Disease is the result of comforts and non alignment with nature. Disease is 'Dis' 'ease' with nature.
  7. Lastly, Masai grow life stock with them which are goats & cows. Although they live in the middle of wild life they never kill any of them for food and solely rely on their own home grown animals. This shows their respect for Nature. Civilization made us to destroy elephants for Ivory, Rhino for horn, tiger for skin and so on. Our endless greed is destroying this planet progressively. We hunt for our entertainment and create imbalance in nature and screw up.
In summary, Masai's are truly civilized. Where are we heading?

With whole of my heart.
NC

Friday, October 2, 2015

Parenting - What is personality?

The term 'Personality' is stemming from the Greek word 'Persona' which means mask. The true connotation is 'how human beings present themselves in a given situation' which we may call it as a 'Behaviour'. Summation of behaviour decides the personality. The English word 'Personality' - Mask is closer to 'Personality ethics' which is a pseudo self which is not the true self. To illustrate the true meaning of personality ethics the anecdote that follows shall clarify:
When we eat in a party we tend to follow certain table manners such as using different spoons for soup and food. We tend to use knife in the right hand & fork in the left and so on. We use napkin in the way everyone use it. But while we eat at home we don't follow any of those so called 'table manners'!! This way of portraying our personality is like wearing a 'Mask' and pretending to be great. This is what is meant as 'Personality ethics' which is fake.
The true 'Personality' is coming from 'Character ethics' which is authentic and intrinsic while the personality ethics is extrinsic. Hence forth whenever I use the word 'Personality' I am referring to 'Character ethics' which is moulded during childhood.
Later I intend to deal with 'Personality ethics' which Asians lag as compared to developed countries.
What decides our personality?

This is a million dollar question! There are two schools of thoughts; one is Vedic and the other is scientific and I am the believer of both. The Vedic is 'Vasana of Reincarnation' and the scientific is 'Theory of Conditioning'. I will explain both in my next post.

With whole of my heart
NC

Thursday, September 24, 2015

Parenting your offsprings

Every parent wants their child to become a great personality and in the process want to do everything possible by them. There is a rat race right from the time parents put their little ones in the pre-school to chase 'marks' as the whole education system is based on 'memory' & 'reproduction'. I was asking a old education expert how the pass mark was decided as 35? He told me that any human being is expected to reproduce at least 35% of their memory. In Vedic period when there were no media like printing, all knowledge were memorised and reproduced verbally! For example the Mahabharata over 100 thousand verses were memorised and reproduced to posterity! Hence knowledge is 'Memorising' was the understanding of mankind for ages. Alas! see the distortion of key aspects of life due to ignorance.
One of the wrong belief of parents is 'The schools will mould their children personality'. Unfortunately the education is not intended to form the personality as it is intended to provide some information such as earth is in the form of a sphere etc. Personality of the young ones are the result of what & how the parents behave in front of their children.
In this series on parenting I would like deal with the specific behaviours of parents which affects the formation of undesirable personality traits of their children. Look forward to share the tips for 'Parenting'.

With whole of my heart
NC

Monday, September 21, 2015

Divine & Human

Deepak Chopra, the well known Medical doctor and Yogi at the same time says "We are integral part of one system which is manifesting in different names and forms; if God is Omnipotent it also means that we are also omnipotent as we are made up of the same stuff". This is a spiritual perspective. This is the essence of whole spirituality which was postulated by Adhi Shankara 1200 years ago as "Adhvaida" means non-duality - no difference.
For those who don't have much faith in spirituality, let's look at what science says! Max Plank proved the matter is made up of energy and it is only with energy all that we see are made up of. Every matter is made up of electrons & protons in its microcosm is an accepted fact and if we separate them the matter exhibits energy which is called nuclear energy.
The greatest scientist who ever lived in this planet, Einstein at the last part of his life figured out there are three forces such as electromagnetic, gravity & weak nuclear force are the essence on which the Universe is made up of and controlled. Although he proved the presence energy in three forms (Brahma-Vishnu-Shiva), he deeply felt there must be only one energy which appears as three! He proposed the "Singularity" theory for which he struggled to develop a mathematical model.
But unfortunately his human form ended before he finished his work. After his death, many scientists like Stephen Hopkins have picked up where Einstein left and pursued 'Singularity' theory as 'String' theory and made many discoveries.
In summary, whether you believe religion or science, the fact emerging is all that is seen as matter or unseen as energy is made out a common substance. Whether you call it Krishna or Jesus or Allah it makes no difference. Deepak Chopra, Einstein, Stephen Hopkins are all saying the same thing what Lord Krishan, Jesus & Mohammed said.
If you believe in this then all living & non-living beings are extension of you and your being can provide healing and comfort to all that exist. Then why hesitate to pray for all?
Let's live together with brotherhood as a family and let not colour of skin, possessions, religion, caste, education, powers divide us.

With whole of my heart
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