Then use 'INTELLECT' and not the 'MIND'
Over 5000 years ago a greatest wisdom was propounded by Lord Krishna which is very much valid at all times for those who wish to pursue material or spiritual success. In the 701 verse treatise GITA, in the first chapter Lord Krishna explains the difference between an 'Animal' & 'Human being' - in the later model, the life energy manifests in an expanded form with an additional 'equipment' called "INTELLECT" (I) which has the ability to 'Discriminate' to make choices before we 'act'. This faculty is not bestowed on the animals who can never 'Make choices'. For example a Tiger cannot make a choice to become a vegetarian. One of the greatest power Divine has blessed human beings with is the "Power of making choices" which is the function of the INTELLECT (I).
The MIND (M) is a seat of "Emotions' which is said to be reactive and invariably directs us in a wrong direction and has no ability to discriminate. For example a diabetic sees an ice cream wishes to grab it as that is his first reaction of his MIND (M) which tries to fulfill its gratification. Here, the stimuli is the ice cream and the response to grab is the MIND!! When the INTELLECT is used by the diabetic, it will tell him the the rationale of 'short term pleasure and long term suffering' but there is no guarantee that the person concerned will use the INTELLECT.
I heard Swami Chinmayananda saying "MIND is like the clerk in a Government office and INTELLECT is the officer who has the big picture and will take right decisions; MIND taking decision is like the clerk disposing the file without referring to the officer".
When this happens in our life we always end up in regretting about our choices but it will be invariably late. Those who smoke has a readymade justification and always believe that they will not be affected by it. But when they are diagnosed with 'Lung cancer', they immediately drop the cigarette as their 'Life' is more dear to them than the smoke. Many habitual alcoholic disconnect their INTELLECT which warns them every time he steps into the bar; but he learns to disconnect it for ever!
It is said that 99% of the human beings live their life only with the application of their MIND disconnecting the INTELLECT to discriminate, although they have the choice to use the INTELLECT at all the occasions to make a right choices. It is akin to buying a sophisticated cell phone with innumerable functionality and using it only for making calls.
"Living your life with the mere application of MIND disconnecting your INTELLECT is driving a Mercedes without a steering". If you do, you have no rights to complain anyone for your conditions in your life.