Comfort & Happiness

The mankind is confused with 'Comfort' & 'Happiness'. Scientific discoveries and inventions brought so many gadgets that made human life more comfortable. On the other hand comfort robbed our physical activities which are vital for us to be healthy.

Human beings are deluded thinking 'if we are comfortable we will be happy'. Unfortunately there is no cause & effect relationship between Comfort & happiness. Sleeping in a water bed is comfortable but does not guarantee happiness. One may lie down in the water bed and may be "Comfortably Unhappy".

Don't chase wealth for comfort thinking you will be happy if you are comfortable. There are rich people travel comfortably in Mercedes S -class with a miserable state of mind! Happiness is a state of mind which has nothing to do with comfort.

Hope you must have seen people sleeping below the bridge very deeply as compared to us sleeping in soft bed in an air conditioned room miserable waking up every one hour. 

With whole of my heart
NC

Veda - A new insight

True spirituality is the "Manual of Life". When we buy any gadget we are supplied with a 'User manual' which tells us how to use the product. But we as an equipment born in this universe did not get 'User manual' supplied by the creator God.

May be due to that reason we don't know how to live and screw up our life like driving a motor car without a steering😂

Vedic scriptures are our 'User manual' which tells us who we are, what purpose we are here and where we will go 😇. We think we have born only to indulge eating Gulobjamun till we become diabetic and drink tea without sugar rest of life.

Alas! Deluded Atma! Please wake up. You are divine in human form and knowing God is the only purpose you have become human. 

💐With Whole of my heart.
NC💐

Principle & Value - The Key for success

Often we get mixed up with Values and Principles. Among many misconceptions this is one among them. I chose to clarify this here before I can add any further posts on Interpersonal Relationships. There is a tamil adage which may be common in other language also says "A pot with less water will always spill over but the full one will not". The analogy of water here refers to wisdom which is a function of experience. Anything known through books or google is only an information till it is experienced personally it does not become wisdom. When you rebel to new ideas that challenges your, there is an opportunity for evolving. "There are many grown OLD, but few only GROWN"

'Value' is what we give importance to - it could be material or intangible. It may be your 'Family' or 'Money' or even your pen! Value drives your behavior and hence your destiny. If your value is for money you will sacrifice everything else for the sake of making money. In other words Value is derived from your 'Attachment' on ephemeral objects.

"Principle" is the 'Law of nature' that governs this universe. You may value principles instead of fleeting objects. For example 'Love', 'Compassion', 'Treating everyone the same way you want to be treated' and so. Benjamin Franklin, the well known Polymath (The human being who mastered several aspects of life) kept 11 principle as his values.

The difference between mundane human beings of indulgence and the great souls like Benjamin Franklin is only the core Values (Principles or self-centered objects). Principe centered leaders like Mother Theresa, Nelson Mandela, Mahatma are the ones whose "Principles' ran their life. That is why we remember them and not our grand fathers !! I shall write about Benjamin's principles later.

Please don't justify broken marriages as good like leaving the job and joining else where. Economic independence cannot be an excuse for adultery. I read some where 30% of married people in metros like Bombay are having extra marital affairs. When you pretend that you are still loving your wife then you are hypocrite. Then you can never be a model to your children. When you break your conscience and insincere you can never be a great leader in any corporate life where "Integrity' is the foundation. Remember when we want chastity from our wife; we cannot have license to freak out. Instead Polygamy is better than adultery.

With whole of my heart

NC

Interpersonal Relationship Behavior

One of the areas we have not been trained and hence lack skills is 'Interpersonal relationship behaviour'. Our success in life largely depends on our ability to get along with people both in family as well as professional career. We live our life without this vital skill like driving a car without steering. 

Many problems of our life is due to this aspect be it broken marriages, poor career progression and so on. It is very strange that we have let loose in the society without this vital skill. I wish to deal with this topic in the next few posts.

With whole of my heart NC

Stress Management - CONTENT & CONTEXT

In one of the interviews Jaggy was asked "How do I manage stress?" He was puzzled to know why human beings have to 'manage' something which is of no value to them? I could understand we have to manage our business, family, properties etc which has a return on investment of efforts but why manage 'Stress'?.

When I was young I never heard of this word 'Stress' except during my mechanical engineering course where my professor taught me about the stress in the Applied Mechanics class. He said "Whenever a material offers a resistance to a force it develops a stress". Taking cue from mechanical stress 'Only when we offer resistance for life events it results in stress'. For example if I push my hand into the water, it does not develop a stress as water never offers resistance but still it is the most powerful entity of creation. Jaggy explains why the modern man is always stressed like a taught rubber band and how he can re-educate himself for attaining freedom from the killer stress!

Jaggy defines 'CONTENT' as what is presented to us in life upon which we have no control; for example 'traffic jam' or 'nagging wife'. The 'CONTEXT' is what our interpretations are upon which we have control. I cannot do anything about the CONTENT in this case is traffic jam. But I can alter my 'CONTEXT' - how I use that time to listen to a music or a discourse without fuming & fretting. The real reason for stress is not the 'CONTENT' but our 'CONTEXT'. By this simple explanation we can train our mind to maintain 'Cool' under all circumstances.

Why so many rich people in the US have to take sleeping pills to sleep? We have been sleeping in the mother's womb ever since we have nucleated? One cannot forget to eat or sleep because anything not learned cannot be forgotten. STRANGE!! Over the years we have screwed up our life with our CONTEXT applied wrongly on every life situation. Animals don't have stress as they have no CONTEXT - interpretation of all events of their life.

Don't miss each precious moments of life in STRSSS which is the choice you have made through your CONTEXT!! Stop worrying & start Living!

With whole my heart.

NC

Interpersonal Relationship - Tips:1

Inter personal relationship (IPR) is the foundation of our peace & growth because we get the good will and cooperation of people through IPR. If you are lacking this skill you reach your level of incompetency although you are technically sound because people don't want to work with you.

Many research work has been done to provide a cook book approach for developing this skill. One of those research is FIRO-B (Fundamental Interpersonal Relationship Orientation Behaviour).

Before I explain this model, one aspect of our attitude towards relationship needs to be dealt. Most of us feel that when we have a relationship issue with anyone we justify that it is because of the other person's behaviour. FIRO-B is not for those who blame the whole world for their relationship mess up as it is an 'Inside-out' approach and not 'Outside-in' approach where we are willing to alter our paradigms and Context.

I am of the view that the World out there is a 'Mirror' and reflects who we are. It will show my ugliness without any prejudice. If you don't accept this view please don't read this topic any further. If you have read this far it means that you are in the path of 'Self-development'. Please look for more posts on this topic. 

With whole of my heart

NC

Stress Management - Content & Context

In one of the interviews Jaggy was asked "How do I manage stress?" He was puzzled to know why human beings have to 'manage' something which is of no value to them? I could understand we have to manage our business, family, properties etc which has a return on investment of efforts but why manage 'Stress'?.

When I was young I never heard of this word 'Stress' except during my mechanical engineering course where my professor taught me about the stress in the Applied Mechanics class. He said "Whenever a material offers a resistance to a force it develops a stress". Taking cue from mechanical stress 'Only when we offer resistance it life events it results in stress'. For example if I push my hand into the water, it does not develop a stress as water never offers resistance but still the most powerful entity on creation.

Jaggy defines 'CONTENT' as what is presented to us in life; for example 'traffic jam' or 'nagging wife'. The 'CONTEXT' is what our interpretations are. I cannot do anything about the CONTENT in this case is traffic jam. But I can alter my 'CONTEXT' - how I use that time to listen to a music or a discourse without fuming & fretting. The real reason for stress is not the 'CONTENT' but our 'CONTEXT'.

Why so many rich people in the US have to take sleeping pills to sleep? We have been sleeping in the mother's womb ever since we have nucleated? One cannot forget to eat or sleep. STRANGE!! We have screwed up our life with our CONTEXT when the content has no power on us but our CONTEXT has which is in our control. Animals don't have stress as they have no CONTEXT.

Don't miss each precious moments of life in STRSSS which is the choice you have made!!

With whole my heart.

NC