Inter personal relationship (IPR) is the foundation of our peace & growth because we get the good will and cooperation of people through IPR. If you are lacking this skill you reach your level of incompetency although you are technically sound because people don't want to work with you.
Many research work has been done to provide a cook book approach for developing this skill. One of those research is FIRO-B (Fundamental Interpersonal Relationship Orientation Behaviour).
Before I explain this model, one aspect of our attitude towards relationship needs to be dealt. Most of us feel that when we have a relationship issue with anyone we justify that it is because of the other person's behaviour. FIRO-B is not for those who blame the whole world for their relationship mess up as it is an 'Inside-out' approach and not 'Outside-in' approach where we are willing to alter our paradigms and Context.
I am of the view that the World out there is a 'Mirror' and reflects who we are. It will show my ugliness without any prejudice. If you don't accept this view please don't read this topic any further. If you have read this far it means that you are in the path of 'Self-development'. Please look for more posts on this topic.
With whole of my heart