What is the meaning of Personality?
There may be innumerable interpretations of this word depending upon the depth of understanding of its application. For someone it is the 'physical stature', for someone else it may the 'emotional balance' etc. Before we learn how to develop personality we need to agree on common understanding of this word. Let us see what is the western meaning and eastern world meaning and how they drive a different approaches.
The Word personality is derived from a Greek word "Persona" which means "Mask". This implies that we have to wear mask (not physical) and pretend to display different behaviors. This is the Western meaning of Personality, which Steven Covey calls it as "Personality ethics". This is the folly in which we are trapped and train our children to talk in English and call Mummy & Daddy. French or German or Japanese are proud of their mother tongue. Alas, we have become IBCD - "Indian Born Confused Desi". If someone is not proud of their Mother & Mother land they are not trustworthy. We teach our children table manners, etiquette etc to make them 'Look good' which is not personality.
Enough for the day.